We have a big family, well more like medium-large, including five beautiful, super cool kids. There is so much love in this family! We really hold on to our faith and love for God. We often like to look at 1 Cor. 13 as a measure or model of how to live with one another. Check it out when you have some time.
I remember one special day as I was sitting up in bed, waking up to that really early morning light at dawn, just before the craziness of the day starts, when I heard the voice of God over my life. He spoke to me, saying, “For I know the desires of your heart, for I put them there … You will have a son.” I thought to myself, did that just happen? Yes, it did! I was so happy, it’s what I’d wanted since we started having a family! I love all of my girls, but this promise was a boy! I wasn’t going to love his big sisters any less, but it was like getting an approval from God that my seed could continue on the earth. Wow – that made me proud. I was going to have a boy! My very own little man to raise up as a Godly man. I’d been waiting for ten years here – it was about time, I thought.
Then, I got stressed. Am I ready? Do I even know what to do with him? Up to this point, I’d been working so hard to understand girls that I felt I wouldn’t know how to raise a boy! You’d be surprised how parents often find themselves unworthy for the task at hand. And having all girls in my family at that time, I didn’t know any better.
So here’s what happened. I got super excited, stressed, felt peace … and then we find out we were having another girl. Huh? What happened? What about that promise? I thought I was getting a boy. Are we sure, should we get a second opinion? What’s going on here? So now I have 4 daughters and no son. Hmmmm…..insert the moment in life where you shrug your shoulders and scratch your head.
Well, at the beginning of this blog I wrote that we had 5 kids, so we did get that boy. And he’s just as cool as his big sisters. I remember the day we all went to the ultra sound appointment. All of the kids guessing boy or girl, and when they said boy I was really happy (as you can imagine) and shouted out, “Whoo hoo, yeah, praise Jesus!!!” And then we walked out back through the waiting room. Everyone was clapping for me and happy. But then they understood why I was so happy, as they saw us and our four daughters walking out. That was funny, you should have seen the look on their faces. I must admit, doubt did creep in and I let it drag me down a bit when our fourth child wasn’t a boy. But I learned a lot about patience in that season, and that the call over a parent’s life is one of faithfulness.
You have to be faithful in order to understand and see the promises that God is giving you. Faithful doesn’t mean sit on your heels either. Faithful means you stay loyal and steadfast in your following. Hanging on even though you can’t see it. Remember Hebrews 11:1 and 2 Corinthians 5:7. Look them up right now, it’s a treasure hunt. Be a faithful parent and your kids will thank you for it. He’s a small boy right now, but he has a big destiny in Chirst! Be encouraged today in the name of Jesus.
- Francisco (Frankie) and Deserae Arboleda (XP Webpastors)